How I lost a big weight

unforgiveness is fatal - lose it

The knife in the back is not nearly as painful as the twisting of the blade. Without emergency attention, betrayal is a critical wound, but unforgiveness is fatal.

New Years 2016 was slightly better than 2015; except for the cough, the shingles and overall not feeling well. At least I was out of the bed. However, 2015 brought healing of another disease nearly as incurable as myasthenia gravis.


Unforgiveness is a deadly epidemic. Although I don’t have any instant solutions, I  invite you to read how I overcame betrayal and my subsequent unforgiveness.

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It was not easy. It never is, but it’s worth the effort.

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If someone wronged you, don’t live in their prison. I invite you to freedom.

Ephesians 4:32, “Forgive one another, just as God also forgave you in Christ.” HCSB

Here’s an excerpt from the book: Dressing the Wound: Give Yourself the Gift of Forgiveness

The three of us sat at a table for two. I didn’t see him at first, although I could see indentions on her shoulders where she had carried him for years. He didn’t know he was there, yet he always was. He had taken much from her. He may or may not have cared about the genuine pain he inflicted, but after he stopped, she volunteered to give him more. He gained nothing, but she lost her freedom.

Her chin drifted toward her chest as if her neck could no longer bear the weight. Concealer applied to dark circles under her eyes failed to hide the evidence of the space he occupied in her mind every night. My brow furrowed as I wondered why she let him continue to live there. Looking closely, I expected to see a shackle binding them together everywhere she went.

She would not forgive. Bitterness flourished and took root in her soul, slowly consuming her from the inside out.

Have you seen her? Maybe she looked at you in the mirror this morning.

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4 thoughts on “How I lost a big weight

  1. Vickie, I found you at #livefree Thursday. I love your front porch picture! I am also intrigued by your story. I was exposed to black mold two years ago and am struggling with multiple chemical sensitivity and chronic sinus, allergy, coughing mess. My illness hasn’t been as debilitating as yours. But I’ve had to pass on speaking engagements because of the chronic coughing. And being around any scents sets me off. Plus my brain feels in a fog which makes even writing more difficult. Not complaining, just saying I empathize with you and wonder what God is up to! Blessings to you.

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