Do you want to go out with me?














He was probably disappointed when I didn’t show up. It was our usual time. I guess I got busy, even though I knew he always waited for me. Sometimes when we were together  I talked the entire time, sometimes we had a two-way conversation and other times we just sat in silence and enjoyed each other’s company. I should have kept my commitment. After the first time, it was easier to skip and harder to get back in the habit.


Typically, I am a rule follower, but I didn’t fully understand and the rules were impossible for me to keep anyway. Twenty years ago when I started my medical practice, I always took obstetric call on Wednesday nights. Therefore, it wasn’t really feasible for me to serve in the children’s program at church although it was required. Obviously, I could not juggle preschoolers and potentially laboring mothers, so I was exempt.

Matthew 19:14, “Then Jesus said, “Leave the children alone, and don’t try to keep them from coming to Me, because the kingdom of heaven is made up of people like this.” HCSB


Perhaps it was sneaky, but my husband and I made good use of the time. We started weekly date night. Wednesday was probably not the best choice of nights because my beeper served as a constant interruption, but at least the kids were occupied. Babies were born at unpredictable and often inconvenient moments, nevertheless we usually managed dinner. He tolerated the times I left him eating alone, or never made it home at all.

Song of Solomon 2:16, “My beloved is mine and I am his.” ESV


Living in perpetual motion, I repeatedly neglected the fourth commandment. I think it must have been like breaking a date, repeatedly. But God continually pursued me until He had my heart, which is what He wanted all along. It has been the most poignant season of my life.  He doesn’t want me to spend time with Him because it is something I am supposed to do, He wants a relationship. I get that. I wouldn’t want my husband to show up for date night because he felt obligated. It wouldn’t be the same if I knew he wanted to play golf or would rather be with his friends. The sacredness of date night is both parties wanting to be there.

Exodus 20:8, “Remember the sabbath day, to keep it holy.” NASB


When I skip my quiet time I neglect my relationship with God. My feelings certainly would be hurt if my husband couldn’t manage one night a week to spend time  with me. Yet there are days I cannot seem to find five minutes to spend with God. I need to be careful and guard my time or my activities will sweep me away. Ask me how I know.

Revelation 2:4, “Nevertheless I have this against you, that you have left your first love.” NKJV


Many people have told me they wish they would have started date night years ago. It is never too late. It should never be a burden or a duty, but it must be protected.

There were times my husband played golf or I rode my bicycle, but generally speaking, we honored our commitment to date night. Surprising how much an hour can make you feel loved and important. God wants us to honor Sabbath times with Him because we love Him and want to spend time with Him, not due to obligation. He wants our heart, because if our heart isn’t in it, we might as well play golf or go ride a bike. Don’t give up though; He waits. The only way to build relationship is to spend time together. It’s worth the effort. What do you say, is it a date? How long has it been?

Hebrews 2:1, “It’s crucial that we keep a firm grip on what we’ve heard so that we don’t drift off.” MSG

Commit to find time to spend with God each day this week I promise you won’t regret it.

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6 thoughts on “Do you want to go out with me?

  1. Vickie, it is great! Date nights are important. I always enjoy getting to still have a date night. As you said we need to make time for date night and time for studying God’s word. A blessing as always. Thanks vickie

  2. Reading your blog this morning and really loved your last scripture reference of Hebrews 2:1. So very true. I needed to hear that today.

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