My parents and I spent the week out-of-state at my sister’s house. She already has a full house with a husband, four boys, including ten year old twins, two dogs and seven chickens. Eggna is my favorite.
Psalm 127:3, “Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him.” NIV
We ate up all the food, used up all the soap, shampoo and conditioner not to mention extra water and electricity. We had dual coffee pots brewing every morning and drained them dry. She prepared meals and washed endless dishes. When we left she had extra sheets and towels to wash. We infringed on her time and disrupted her home school schedule.
Deuteronomy 28:42, “All thy trees and fruit of thy land shall the locust consume.” KJV
ARE YOU A DRAIN?
I was all take and no give. It’s not like I can help with the dishes. Physically, I am not able. Being a drain as a house guest was ok for a few days, but there are more destructive ways to drain relationships. Friendships, marriages and churches with all take and no give quickly become drained.
— Vickie Henderson (@rightsideuplife) May 2, 2015
USED UP AND MOVING ON
A friend who only takes eventually wears out the one who gives. A marriage where one focuses on what should be done for them instead of what they can do for the other usually does not last. A church member who sits on the sideline without getting in the game usually moves on to another church, always looking for something they did not find.
Psalm 143:3, “I sat there in despair, my spirit draining away, my heart heavy, like lead.” MSG
GIVE YOUR GIFTS
We are given gifts in order to strengthen each other. Nothing energizes a relationship like giving. We are to carry one another’s burdens, but it can be exhausting. That is why Jesus says His burden is light because He alone is able to carry ours and He gives instead of takes.
Matthew 11:30, “For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” ASV
WE HAD A BLAST BUT WE WERE A DRAIN
Although I was not able to do much, she knows she is always welcome at my house. I don’t have any chickens, but Eggna can come too. Oh wait, I did give out some medical advice and my brother-in-law says I am the best gynecologist he has ever had.
What are you contributing to your friendships, marriage or church? Instead of moving on, look at what you can give. I promise you will be happier.